Okay I have two baby names... What do you think?

Okay well I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and well My husband and I found out that we were having a little girl. So we got a name choosen and set but then my husbands side of the family claimed that they hated the name and they just made this huge deal about it... Well the name was Alyssa Jolean... His family likes the name Alyssa but the Jolean they hate... and of course we took two name and combined them.... the name Jo comes from my mother while lean comes from my husbands middle name Delean. Well they dont like it and shame on me but I like to try to make everyone invoved with my whole life... but We came out with another middle name which our little girls name would be Alyssa Hope. I need to know, Which name is better? I know that its our child and we could call it what we would like but its just I want everyone to like it as well.

Okay I have two baby names... What do you think?
I love Alyssa Jolean! Plus, I think you should use Jolean because you created it and it has special meaning w/the combo of names you did. Personally, I think it's disrespectful for the family to make a big stink and say they don't like the name. They can say they're not crazy about it, but to make a big deal is childish. It's your child, you should name her what you want. They'll get used to it.
Reply:I like both names to be honest with you. They both sound pretty. If I had to pick one, I would say Jolean because it has meaning to you and your huband.





I know you didn't ask for advice on the in-law thing, but the truth is, if you go out of your way to please everyone now they will always expect you to try and please them over many things in the future. It won't end here. Go with what is in your heart and don't worry so much. It is a middle name anyway which is never used as often as her first. It will be easier for them to get over eventually.





My husband and I have decided on a name for our little girl due in early March. We have chosen to tell very few people since we do not want any opinions on a name we have already made a decision on. Good Luck!
Reply:I like Alyssa Hope better, but the thing that matters the most is that you and your husband like it. NOT EVERYONE IN THE WORLD.
Reply:I like Alyssa Jolean best, but I would spell it Jolene.
Reply:I agree with you that you should not worry about the criticism about the middle name. If you like Jolean better then use it. It defiantely has more meaning to you, and most children aren't called by their middle name anyway.
Reply:Alyssa Hope is cute. But i was thinking maybe Alyssa Janene that's kinda a mixture of your mothers name and your husbands middle name.
Reply:I actually like Alyssa Jolean better!
Reply:In time his family wouldn't even remember that they didn't like Jolean. Once they meet and get to know the little girl...the name itself will be secondary...





Don't let their opinions sway you...
Reply:I am a Mother and Mother in law and Grandmother so I speak with experience.





Let me share something important with you.


IT IS YOUR CHOICE. NOT THEIRS. In life you will never make EVERYONE HAPPY.





I personally like Jolean. Middle names get almost NO use.


My one Granddaughters middle name is Mackenzie and the other one is after her other Grandfather who is deceased.


Macaria.(A Philippine name). I personally do not feel one way or the other about their names. IT WAS THEIR PARENTS CHOICE, NOT MINE. I will say it again YOU WILL NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE.





Happy Baby.
Reply:Alyssa is nice, Jolean sounds like a Hillbilly name...sorry
Reply:Honestly? I'll admit .. I share their sentiment. Combining Jo and Delean to form Jolean only manages to come across as exactly that -- a contrived combination of Jo and -lean. And while I can understand the desire to honor more than one important person in your lives, tacking the end of your husband's middle name onto Jo only serves to dampen the significance of using your mother's name at all ... not to mention NOT honoring a second person, since you simply cannot "honor" yourself (and I'm assuming Daddy had a role in the naming here LOL).





So I'd go with Alyssa Jo, Josie, Josephine, Joanna, etc., as an obvious nod to your mom, before caving to the "need" to smush Dad's middle name SUFFIX (not even his actual NAME) in there as well. Or, as you've toyed with, find another middle name entirely.





And while Hope is generally too predictable a filler for my taste, I certainly prefer it to "Jolean," to be quite honest.





That said, you might want to ignore your tendency to want everyone "involved," and simply not share your final choice with friends and family. Doing so only invites the exact sort of "feedback" you've already experienced. And really, if you're set on a name, there's simply no reason to do so. After all, if you KNOW it will be your daughter's name for the rest of her life, do you really want to know that everyone else finds it a poor choice? Only asking for negativity, know what I mean?





Good luck!
Reply:I think the Alyssa Jolean flows better, and since it's a combination of family names it fits better......pish to your husband's family, whose baby is it anyway? Certainly isn't growing inside them now is she.





So far as the country song, your daughter will not have any repercussions there. She will be growing up with children whose generation is 2 or 3 generations removed from that era of music. Not to worry.
Reply:alyssa hope is like a little angel.........so sweet!





i think its flows better than alyssa jolean and also sorry but i dont like that spelling of the name.





good luck!
Reply:Listen babe, u name u baby whateva u wonna name her. Personally i like both names but this is you're little girl u choose, ur husbands family can have their own kids and name them what the hell they like, but this is you're choice dont let then get in the way of what u want!!! You shouldn't make this decition on what eveyone else wants!!


Well good luk wif wateva name u go wiv hunni!


xxCongratzzxx
Reply:Alyssa Hope
Reply:I like the first one Alyssa Jolean..........names with meaning are so nice. I think it flows well and just sounds sweet.
Reply:I definitely like Jolean better. Hope is good too but not my (or your) first choice. None of my in laws like my son's name (Alan) they complained about it until he was 2 weeks old. Now they are just used to it. I just told them you got your chance to name your kids and now it is my turn to name mine. so butt out!!! Good luck.
Reply:I like Alyssa Jolean


How about Alyssa Jodie, or Jodee, or Jodi, they are spelling of Jodi, found on babynamesworld.com





Pick the name you and your husband like


I also like Alysaa Johanna and Alyssa Jolee





Alyssa Hope is pretty





My mother in law never like my daughter name, we named it anyway. It took eight month to decide, she still state she would never name her child that. It's not her child
Reply:I personally like Alyssa Hope, but this decision should be yours and your husbands. I don't think other family members should have a say.
Reply:Alyssa Hope! It's beautiful! Good Luck!
Reply:Alyssa is OK, but Jolean is, well, people above have expressed it pretty well. When you try to combine names, it rarely works, like a girl I knew named Johnalou. Hope is simple and pretty.
Reply:i like alyssa jolean better. its just more unsual and when she gets older if she chooses she can go by the name jolean if shed really like to. dont let the family push you around. you did a good thing by trying to involve others when creating a name. you and your girl are the ones who have to live with it, not them. best of luck and congrats ^_^
Reply:Alyssa Hope sounds better than Alyssa Jolean...don't get me wrong, I like the name Jolene, have known a few girls with that name but at times, it can be associated with a country song that makes her out to be a tramp. You need to name that kiddo whatever you want. I don't like my new nephews name but he's not my kid so it doesn't affect the fate of the world.
Reply:i prefer Alyssa Jolean... I know you are trying to keep the spelling the same but Jolene is an alternative spelling for it.