My girlfriend and I were discussing baby names & neither one of us were pregnant. I told her what my husband?

and I would name our daughter, if it was a girl. We have it all picked out - it will be Olive. Her and I were discussing this because my husband and I are trying - I saw her two weeks later and she found out she was expecting her 3rd (total surprise). Now she is 4 to 5 months along. I just met up with her last week and we discussed baby names again and surprisingly if she has a girl it will be the name I picked. I'm a little upset - we are not pregnant so I guess we will just have to pick another name but it makes me mad. Anyone had this happen? Any advice?

My girlfriend and I were discussing baby names %26amp; neither one of us were pregnant. I told her what my husband?
My older sister used to love the name Brittany. For a very long time all she wanted with all of her heart was to name her first daughter Brittany. My aunt had just given birth to her youngest daughter and was still quite drugged in the hospital. My sister went in to see her and the new baby. Our aunt was still quite drugged and very out of it. The baby had come a little early so she was nameless. My sister mentioned that she couldn't wait for she and her husband to have a little girl so she could name her Brittany. My sister left the hospital and later heard that our aunt had name her baby Brittany. My sister was FURIOUS! My aunt claims that she doesn't remember the visit at all, but she just randomly started to like the name Brittany after the baby was born - she honestly didn't know why, it just kind of popped in her head. Since then time went by, and my sister got over her hostility, had triplets, and named the girl triplet Abigail. The name Brittany would not have fit my neice as well as Abby does, and Brittany is the perfect name for my cousin. It wasn't worth all of the trouble.





My advice is don't let a name ruin a friendship :) This is a time to celebrate a new life, not to fret! You have every right to be upset, but you could look at it like she respected your opinion so much that she wanted to name her daughter after something that you originally suggested. Life will go on and you will have your own beautiful daughter someday with the perfect name for her. Even after she names her daughter, if you still love it, you could use Olive as a middle name for your little girl. That's my two cents at least :)
Reply:My advice is to realize that you don't own the name and she has the right to choose whatever she wants, just as you and your husband do. You don't necessarily have to pick a different name if you ever have a daughter, there are going to be more Olive's in the world. Also, by not getting bent out of shape you can see if she really actually likes the name or was just trying to get a rise out of you.
Reply:I have had that done to me also, but turns out after the other person used the name and I heard it more and more I didn't like it. So it worked out for me. You will come up with a different name that you love just as much. This time don't tell anyone what it is. Good luck and I hope a baby is in your near future.
Reply:to the person who posted before me it's freakin olive not olivia!!! and i really like that name btw! And yeah i would be alittle frustrated! Maybe sit her down and try to tell her how you feel! That's the only thing you can do because if she still uses that name atleast you tried!
Reply:That isn't very nice of her to steal your name idea like that. She may have liked it before but then why didn't she say something when you mentioned it. You will just have to either have a second Olive or pick another pretty name and keep it quiet.
Reply:I know what you mean, cos you said the name and she uses it before you and it looks like you are copying her :/ i know its childish, but its true.


olive is a cute name too


if i were you, i would just use it aswell :)


hope everything goes well


xxx
Reply:That's why you should keep thing like that to yourself...the same thing happen to my sister. I don't have kids get....but my husband and I are going to try soon...we have names that we like and would not tell anyone until the baby was born.
Reply:She has just as much right to use the name as you do. You do not own it. Anyways, let her have it. Her daughter will probably be one of many Olivias in her clas, since the name is so common and overused.
Reply:That is a bummer. But you can NOT say anything. No one can stake a claim to a name- whoever has the kid first. And if you really love it, what is stopping you from using it if you do have a girl. Olive is growing in popularity so its not like it would be that unusual. I think if you still love it, you need to use it. They probably will not be in school together or anything anyway- and even if they are - who cares. You shouldn't give up the name you love just because someone else uses it. Who knows- she could have been liking that name all along before you even mentioned it.





And- you may well change your mind. 9 months + conception time is a long time from now. I know even in between my kids names I thought I LOVED LOVED LOVED were not my favorites by the time the baby arrived. Good luck and dont worry about the name- your baby will have the perfect name when s/he arrives!